Mum, Dad, I’m Straight, A Conversation About Sexuality That Does Not Occur

Sexuality

How often does this conversation around sexuality occur? I’d almost put money on the fact that it has never occurred, nor should it have to and nor should any other conversation which justifies primal human urges or behaviours with regard to sexuality. We’ve come a long way with our attitudes towards homosexuality, or have we? Have we at one point had the highest of understandings of human behaviours in a range of disciplines and lost the meaning in the transition of society?

Someone not so long ago said to me that they felt as if we as a society are actually de-volving ­as opposed to evolving as we so often think we are. I had to really think on that for a long time and I could see their point in its entirety. We has humans have been roaming the Earth for thousands of years in many capacities, cultures have been around in their purist forms for longer than I can comprehend and yet, after thousands of years, we still seem to have these battles and arguments which could so easily be solved or even resolved if you will.

Where does this perceived pressure or expectation to explain quite often in the first instance, to our parents that we are gay? We really need to address this issue at the core because as we know, often we lose too many invaluable lives in the process of trying to find their feet in the world. I feel as if for the most part, we have made leaps and bounds in this area but we still have a long way to go, in another piece, “Do activists do their cause an injustice by being activistsI discuss more about how sometimes in the process of trying to establish a cause, we can often do more damage in the short term.

I have never had an adverse reaction when talking about my sexuality with friends and family, I do still have the perception that perhaps one day, I could get a negative reaction that could ultimately lead to harm and in 2016, I, or anyone else should not feel like that.

I feel as if people should have to have the conversation more often justifying their straight behaviours and lifestyles as they circum to such a lifestyle of conformation and everything can be so beige, its hideous. The days of boy meets girl are still alive, but they are by no means the way of the world we live in, how about this, human meets human, or spirit meets spirit”?

The genetic make up of the individuals concerned plays no role in the love for which two humans can hold for each other and the things they can set out to achieve during their time together on this planet.

Food for thought.

 

38 thoughts on “Mum, Dad, I’m Straight, A Conversation About Sexuality That Does Not Occur

  1. thebookwright Reply

    Spirit meets spirit – just love that.
    or a slightly extended version, 9th dimensional being having a 3 dimensional experience creates a ripple picked up and reflected back from other 9th dimensional being having a 3 dimensional experience and wonders, “Did I make that happen or just imagine it?”

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      Great question – what we put out we get back…hmmm…it’s funny, I remember always saying how I did not believe in “the one”, so many people would always go on about it and my take was that “the one” could appear in any shape or form providing they meet a set of criteria that we have already decided in our minds so we put that out there & sure enough, we get it back! The Universe is quite amazing!

  2. thebookwright Reply

    Spirit meets spirit – just love that.
    or a slightly extended version, 9th dimensional being having a 3 dimensional experience creates a ripple picked up and reflected back from other 9th dimensional being having a 3 dimensional experience and wonders, “Did I make that happen or just imagine it?”

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      Great question – what we put out we get back…hmmm…it’s funny, I remember always saying how I did not believe in “the one”, so many people would always go on about it and my take was that “the one” could appear in any shape or form providing they meet a set of criteria that we have already decided in our minds so we put that out there & sure enough, we get it back! The Universe is quite amazing!

  3. Paula Reply

    Oh how wonderful that would be eh? I love this. It really gets to me that people have to ‘come out’ when really it’s no ones business but theirs! I think it’s the pressure on many to have a family, so they feel they have to explain to their loved ones that they may not have kids… Stuff all that I say! Do what you want 🙂 Love is love at the end of the day no matter how it happens. Great post.

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      Yep, I think it’s sad that people feel so much pressure just from being who they are, something is fundamentally wrong with a world where people feel like that, love sure s love & it know’s no boundaries!

  4. Paula Reply

    Oh how wonderful that would be eh? I love this. It really gets to me that people have to ‘come out’ when really it’s no ones business but theirs! I think it’s the pressure on many to have a family, so they feel they have to explain to their loved ones that they may not have kids… Stuff all that I say! Do what you want 🙂 Love is love at the end of the day no matter how it happens. Great post.

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      Yep, I think it’s sad that people feel so much pressure just from being who they are, something is fundamentally wrong with a world where people feel like that, love sure s love & it know’s no boundaries!

  5. danlarkin1990 Reply

    while I certainly have no problem with gay people and I can also understand WHY you feel the way you do.
    that being said, you do realise that straight people have to explain this to their parents too. it might not be as hard as for the gay counterpart but when an adolescent says they like a person of the opposite sex, technically they are associating as straight, it’s just said in a different way.

  6. danlarkin1990 Reply

    while I certainly have no problem with gay people and I can also understand WHY you feel the way you do.
    that being said, you do realise that straight people have to explain this to their parents too. it might not be as hard as for the gay counterpart but when an adolescent says they like a person of the opposite sex, technically they are associating as straight, it’s just said in a different way.

  7. cynthia Reply

    ‘The genetic make up of the individuals concerned plays no role in the love for which two humans can hold for each other and the things they can set out to achieve during their time together on this planet.’ – that line gave me goosebumps. I agree with you wholeheartedly.x

  8. cynthia Reply

    ‘The genetic make up of the individuals concerned plays no role in the love for which two humans can hold for each other and the things they can set out to achieve during their time together on this planet.’ – that line gave me goosebumps. I agree with you wholeheartedly.x

  9. cynthias19 Reply

    The genetic make up of the individuals concerned plays no role in the love for which two humans can hold for each other and the things they can set out to achieve during their time together on this planet. – THAT line gave me goosebumps. I agree with you, wholeheartedly. C.x

  10. cynthias19 Reply

    The genetic make up of the individuals concerned plays no role in the love for which two humans can hold for each other and the things they can set out to achieve during their time together on this planet. – THAT line gave me goosebumps. I agree with you, wholeheartedly. C.x

  11. John Dwyer Reply

    If only we chose to define ourselves by our values, our compassion for others, and our deeds instead of our sexual preference. I don’t care who my cohabitators of this planet are attracted to, and I’m always perplexed by those who feel the need to advertise their preference like a neon sign instead of the more interesting aspects of their lives (I feel the same way about political preferences). People are so much more than this one dimension.

    Great post!

  12. John Dwyer Reply

    If only we chose to define ourselves by our values, our compassion for others, and our deeds instead of our sexual preference. I don’t care who my cohabitators of this planet are attracted to, and I’m always perplexed by those who feel the need to advertise their preference like a neon sign instead of the more interesting aspects of their lives (I feel the same way about political preferences). People are so much more than this one dimension.

    Great post!

  13. Mark Bowness Reply

    Such an important topic to me too man. Many people would say that we have come along way as a society with regards to our views on homosexuality but most homosexual men and women would tell you the opposite. Can gay couples comfortably hold hands in public? What would happen if they openly displayed their affection? And more importantly the inability to do so (whether real or perceived) mentally places the homosexual in the role of the inferior gender. The most important biblical command? Love yourself and then love your neighbour in the way that you love yourself. Only truly when men and women are free to love themselves, whatever their sexuality, will we evolve to be a society who can TRULY love others.

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      Thanks for the comments Mark, I wish that life coaches, spiritual coaches and those who have been on their own journeys were able to teach kids in the early stages of their lives about coming from within as opposed to looking outward for satisfaction & fulfilment.

  14. Mark Bowness Reply

    Such an important topic to me too man. Many people would say that we have come along way as a society with regards to our views on homosexuality but most homosexual men and women would tell you the opposite. Can gay couples comfortably hold hands in public? What would happen if they openly displayed their affection? And more importantly the inability to do so (whether real or perceived) mentally places the homosexual in the role of the inferior gender. The most important biblical command? Love yourself and then love your neighbour in the way that you love yourself. Only truly when men and women are free to love themselves, whatever their sexuality, will we evolve to be a society who can TRULY love others.

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      Thanks for the comments Mark, I wish that life coaches, spiritual coaches and those who have been on their own journeys were able to teach kids in the early stages of their lives about coming from within as opposed to looking outward for satisfaction & fulfilment.

  15. Aaron Bourke Reply

    Very well written and rely highlights a struggle that should not exist for an individual. I particularly like “spirit meets spirit”, We are all individuals and the fixation of putting humans into groups goes against the very existence of who we are as individuals. Keep up the great work.

  16. Aaron Bourke Reply

    Very well written and rely highlights a struggle that should not exist for an individual. I particularly like “spirit meets spirit”, We are all individuals and the fixation of putting humans into groups goes against the very existence of who we are as individuals. Keep up the great work.

  17. Serena Star Leonard Reply

    I do feel that we are devolving of late. We have been sucked into some pretty strange ways of being as a human race, and so while there are so many positive developments each day, there is a deliberate avoidance or ignorance of many things too. But then that is probably not new! Great post Jamie!

  18. Serena Star Leonard Reply

    I do feel that we are devolving of late. We have been sucked into some pretty strange ways of being as a human race, and so while there are so many positive developments each day, there is a deliberate avoidance or ignorance of many things too. But then that is probably not new! Great post Jamie!

  19. Kim Seagrim Reply

    Nice article. Agree 100%. I once asked my mother if it would bother her if I was gay, her response, “Of course it would. It would mean no grandchildren.” At the time I thought it was an odd response, and now, 24 years later, it’s even more ridiculous given that although I’m happily married, I’m even more happily childless. Well mum, I’m not gay, but you still didn’t get any grandchildren. Irony.

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      Irony indeed. Given the number of same sex couples with children these days, you’d have perhaps been more likely to adopt had you been gay!

  20. Kim Seagrim Reply

    Nice article. Agree 100%. I once asked my mother if it would bother her if I was gay, her response, “Of course it would. It would mean no grandchildren.” At the time I thought it was an odd response, and now, 24 years later, it’s even more ridiculous given that although I’m happily married, I’m even more happily childless. Well mum, I’m not gay, but you still didn’t get any grandchildren. Irony.

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      Irony indeed. Given the number of same sex couples with children these days, you’d have perhaps been more likely to adopt had you been gay!

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