What Is Something You Used To Enjoy Before Life Got In The Way?

Life

Zen stones

This question itself poses many more questions, the first one that I see is “what IS life”? How often do we hear people say “well that’s life”? What does this actually mean? Perhaps I’ll get to that in another post but for the purpose of today’s discussion, read this with your own definition of life in mind and draw comparisons based on your own values and beliefs.

Using myself as an example, I felt for so long that I had my life planned and sorted out and that I knew ultimately what I wanted to do with my time on this planet, this time around anyway. As I reflect back over a few years that have been feeling somewhat awakened now to my passion, I feel that for the first time in a long time I have finally started to peel back the layers of bullshit the society and the world as we know it have covered me with trying to make me believe that the system that has been created is life.

The Matrix

The field of personal development and self-help is perhaps more prominent than ever and I believe this can be attributed to a few things. I believe that humans have always had a deeper understanding of their purpose and what they have been put here to do but I also know that there are those who have this understanding who have put systems and processes in place as a method of control so that individuals fail to reach their destiny’s and live out their passions. We as infants are taught to walk, to talk, how to eat and feed ourselves and then we are placed in educations institutions which tell us to then sit down, to turn up at a particular time, to leave at a particular time, to eat at a particular time and they tell us what they believe we need to learn in order to exist within the systems and processes in place within our current operating model of society.

You have the right to conform

At points during our education we do get to pick and choose our subjects at school, we then get to invest our time and intelligence in our pre-determined fields of expertise to gain the grades we are told are required to go and do further study if we so choose and then live out our lives working towards what we are told is common goal.

A common goal, does that differ from an individual goal? I feel as if to an extent it does but then again, the greatest variable in any situation involving people are the people themselves and to what extend can every individual be controlled to the full extent?

This year I reached a point where I gained my primary and high school education, I went on to study tertiary education all with an end goal in sight and then I chose to study more and more and more! At the current end of my studies where I was moving forward towards a goal, I couldn’t help but have this overwhelming feeling of emptiness inside, something was missing, the closer I got to my goal the more I realized I was merely just another cog in the chain of a pre-determined society which I felt and feel does not fit the mould of what I am at the core.

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During the course of trying to get to the goal which ultimately I had let society and others tell me was my destiny, I awoke one day and realized I had not done several things for a long time which I used to do so naturally and that I derived great pleasure from. I used to read, I used to write, I used to play the piano, I used to ride my bike – all these things I had not done in such a long time as life as I knew it had got in the way. So I set out to re-define my definition of life, I started reading again, I started writing again, I bought some new music books and sat a piano for two days and I played, I bought a new bike and I started to ride it as often as I could. I finally felt as if I was starting to peel back the layers of which societies “norms” had placed on me, on me as the individual, trying to get me to conform. Conformity is a soul killer, it kills the spirit and I feel like too many people allow this to happen and rarely stop to smell the roses and reflect on what and who they are truly contributing to!

Gorillas smelling roses

So the question I posed in the title was “what’s something you used to enjoy before life got in the way”? Having read all I have written thus far, what is it? It can be the simplest thing, what is something that you do everyday that you are good at and get pleasure from and seek no reward? What is it that once life as you know it is out of the way for the day, that you CANNOT WAIT to do? Think long and hard about this, but don’t think for too long, for life as we know it does end as far as the physical existence is concerned and before you know it is time to leave this planet for now and I could not imagine how awful it would feel to be in my dying moments thinking of a life which I regret and one of which I wished I did this or that or said this or that. I’d rather have the conversation or experience and get an unfavourable answer or result than not do it and never know and I’d like all of you to read this to take this one board and think about where it applies to you.

Until next time.

30 thoughts on “What Is Something You Used To Enjoy Before Life Got In The Way?

  1. Paula Reply

    Yes! This is exactly how I feel. I am not one to conform (not any more) as I see that we all have a gift and if we don’t share well we are being selfish! There is a real sadness to doing what everyone else does, no one seems to question it and they just say ‘well that;s life’ which winds me up no end! NO! I want to shout, NO! it doesn’t have to be like this. But sadly fear gets in the way for most people. Fear of failure and looking stupid. yet I argue – you look stupid anyway so just go for it! Great article and it’s good to see I am not alone in this thinking 🙂

  2. Paula Reply

    Yes! This is exactly how I feel. I am not one to conform (not any more) as I see that we all have a gift and if we don’t share well we are being selfish! There is a real sadness to doing what everyone else does, no one seems to question it and they just say ‘well that;s life’ which winds me up no end! NO! I want to shout, NO! it doesn’t have to be like this. But sadly fear gets in the way for most people. Fear of failure and looking stupid. yet I argue – you look stupid anyway so just go for it! Great article and it’s good to see I am not alone in this thinking 🙂

  3. Paula Reply

    Yes! This is exactly how I feel. I am not one to conform (not any more) as I see that we all have a gift and if we don’t share well we are being selfish! There is a real sadness to doing what everyone else does, no one seems to question it and they just say ‘well that;s life’ which winds me up no end! NO! I want to shout, NO! it doesn’t have to be like this. But sadly fear gets in the way for most people. Fear of failure and looking stupid. yet I argue – you look stupid anyway so just go for it! Great article and it’s good to see I am not alone in this thinking :

  4. Paula Reply

    Yes! This is exactly how I feel. I am not one to conform (not any more) as I see that we all have a gift and if we don’t share well we are being selfish! There is a real sadness to doing what everyone else does, no one seems to question it and they just say ‘well that;s life’ which winds me up no end! NO! I want to shout, NO! it doesn’t have to be like this. But sadly fear gets in the way for most people. Fear of failure and looking stupid. yet I argue – you look stupid anyway so just go for it! Great article and it’s good to see I am not alone in this thinking :

  5. John Dwyer Reply

    Yes, Yes Yes, I’m loving my non-conformity now, after 30 years of corporate stodginess. I still have my moments of panic, and momentarily feel like diving for the security of being a sheep, but that just isn’t going to happen 🙂

    Thanks for an awesome post!

    jd

  6. John Dwyer Reply

    Yes, Yes Yes, I’m loving my non-conformity now, after 30 years of corporate stodginess. I still have my moments of panic, and momentarily feel like diving for the security of being a sheep, but that just isn’t going to happen 🙂

    Thanks for an awesome post!

    jd

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      I get that question a lot also and this one; “when are you coming to live on Earth Jamie” My response, “I’m there guys, whenever you want to come & join me feel free!”

    • jpsgreenroom Reply

      I get that question a lot also and this one; “when are you coming to live on Earth Jamie” My response, “I’m there guys, whenever you want to come & join me feel free!”

  7. cynthias19ia Reply

    This is an amazing post. I quit my corporate job last year, I now do contract work a few days each week and spend the other half building my heart driven business. I read more, sleep more, eat better, do more yoga, spend more time at the beach and focus on how I want to feel. Totally inspired by Danielle La Porte’s ‘The Desire Map’- I think you’ll love it. C.x

  8. cynthias19ia Reply

    This is an amazing post. I quit my corporate job last year, I now do contract work a few days each week and spend the other half building my heart driven business. I read more, sleep more, eat better, do more yoga, spend more time at the beach and focus on how I want to feel. Totally inspired by Danielle La Porte’s ‘The Desire Map’- I think you’ll love it. C.x

  9. Mark Bowness Reply

    Great post! It’s only when we start to live the authentic us does our situation change. If people are struggling for money, struggling to jump up the career ladder or find that partner. Usually it’ because they are not being their authentic selves!

  10. Mark Bowness Reply

    Great post! It’s only when we start to live the authentic us does our situation change. If people are struggling for money, struggling to jump up the career ladder or find that partner. Usually it’ because they are not being their authentic selves!

  11. Annie Cook (@hiannie) Reply

    The thing that we enjoy most is usually what we always nag about when we are doing it. That is because we want everything to run smoothly and perfectly. And no matter how hard it is, we keep at it. If we sre nagging or feeling comfortable, then we are not living, we are on a holiday.

  12. Annie Cook (@hiannie) Reply

    The thing that we enjoy most is usually what we always nag about when we are doing it. That is because we want everything to run smoothly and perfectly. And no matter how hard it is, we keep at it. If we sre nagging or feeling comfortable, then we are not living, we are on a holiday.

  13. Aaron Bourke Reply

    It really is a magnificent space to be, when you realise the greater purpose and understanding of life and all it holds. I genuinely think that more and more people are becoming attuned to themselves and searching for that greater purpose and understanding of themselves, what it holds is perhaps the greatest evolutionary leap within the human race, when everyones finds it? Great article!

  14. Aaron Bourke Reply

    It really is a magnificent space to be, when you realise the greater purpose and understanding of life and all it holds. I genuinely think that more and more people are becoming attuned to themselves and searching for that greater purpose and understanding of themselves, what it holds is perhaps the greatest evolutionary leap within the human race, when everyones finds it? Great article!

  15. Serena Star Leonard Reply

    Great timing on this post as I have just got back from my second acrobatics lesson! The last time I did gymnastics was 22 years ago and I have decided that it is time to get back into it again!!

  16. Serena Star Leonard Reply

    Great timing on this post as I have just got back from my second acrobatics lesson! The last time I did gymnastics was 22 years ago and I have decided that it is time to get back into it again!!

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