What? But how? By learning to listen to what people are not saying with their words, I believe we can create our own Utopian existence.
Being able to communicate to others and allow others to communicate to us is vital for our survival. Most of us learn to read and write at a young age, in order to facilitate communication but how often do we stop and listen to what people aren’t saying?
We don’t need our ears to listen to the feeling we get in our stomach when something feels good, or feels bad, or feels just a little strange. How often though do we tend to ignore this feeling and not listen to it? Communication via speech or the written word plus listening via our ears or reading with our eyes seems like a logical way of taking in and then releasing information but what about that unspoken modality that everyone talks about that we are all aware?
When was time you saw someone who instinctively you knew was suffering? Or perhaps they were happy or sad? Without needing to say or hear anything, you listened to something inside you and you just knew? Listening to our inner tutor or intuition, as it is more commonly known as is something, which we are born with. It is how we have survived for centuries and it is then with our acquired knowledge of reading and writing that we have been able to articulate our feelings of knowing into words and information to education others.
In a fast paced world of information of which we are taking in at rates higher than we have ever seen, how do we ensure that we do not de-skill in listening to what people are not saying?
- Practice on yourself. Sit alone in a quiet place, do your best to clear your mind and then allow what ever needs to come to you to come to you. Listen to what your body is telling you and then act on that. Write down what comes to you and also how you feel after.
- Allow yourself to be silent in a busy situation and just observe how others are moving, what their eyes are doing; look at their body language.
- Listen to your intuition and allow it to guide what you are about to say to another whom you observe to be acting or feeling a certain way.
- Allow yourself to truly connect to the other or others and allow your intuition to guide the interaction.
- Reflect on this interaction and compare it to a situation where you have disallowed your intuition to guide your interactions.
You’ll be amazed at the quality of your interactions with others from this point on if you so choose to continue to listen to what people are not saying with their voices but are saying with their bodies and their spirits. Continue to engage with others in such a way and build a skillset around this. I’ve been doing this for quite sometime and initially, I felt that because I was perhaps not saying as many words, that I was not adding any value, but I soon learned the value of saying less words but in those words, was more feeling and connection.