Trust, I’d go as far as to say it’s almost as vital to we human beings as food, air & water. What does trust mean? What does it mean to you? To me, trust is about knowing your own values and beliefs and being able to match those with others with the confidence that they have your back and won’t betray you.
As most of us would be aware, this is not always the case, and it can be a real test in life when our trust is breached. It can, and does cast a huge shadow of doubt over a lot of things in our lives, but for me, I find myself feeling really disappointed in myself. Disappointed that I have been the last to know what someone has said about me behind my back, or what they have done to me, and I really have to work through it consciously to be able to move forward.
“Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if its broken, but you will always see the cracks in its mother fucking reflection”. Lady Gaga Ft. Beyonce – Telephone.
I use the above quote a little tongue in cheek, but when I first heard those words, it was at a point in my life where my trust had been breached on more than one occasion, by an individual, and it felt like at that point, it was to be the last.
I remember thinking and talking about this all the time. It wasn’t so much what the other person had done as such, but more so that I had compromised my values and beliefs by allowing it to happen, and letting it go in the past in the hope that they would not do it again, but they did. A leopard never changes its spots.
I’m sure we can all think of a similar situation to the above where we have allowed the behaviour or actions of another to continue, despite it not sitting with our moral compass, and there then coming a point where we say enough is enough.
For me, its disappointing because would like to think that I am a trustworthy person, and like to think the best of others, and of situations most of the time, and believe that if this is how I am, then I should get that type of return from others, as we know, it’s a harsh world out there and this is not always the case.
So what is the solution?
Is there a solution?
The conclusion that I have come to is that the circle of trust which I currently sit in is decreasing as I transform as an individual, but the circle of trust which I am establishing concurrently with those who I am gravitating towards, is growing. Bitter sweet, but it is how the cookie crumbles.
Not wanting to wish ill on those who do wrong by us, all we and all I can do is wish them all the best in their ventures and just hope that one day, they see the light and make some changes for the better.
For as their circle of trust decreases at a rapid rate and their new circle of trust fails to grow, as they are not planting any new seeds, it would seem they could be in for a lonely journey.